TToT – Grateful Grateful Truly Blessed

It’s been a rough week.

My RA gave me a run for my money this week. I could have handled it better. In many areas, I have not been compassionate with myself. In all honesty, I wanted to skip this list tonight.

I finally decided not to force it, to just let it go and searched for a video or something to post instead of a list. I decided to try doing a post later in the weekend.

But I found my video and it was exactly what I didn’t know I needed.

And of course, I have much for which to be thankful. Continue reading

FTSF – About Marriage, Husbands, And Chores That Suck

Since I started my blog, the Hub has been telling me to write posts about how awesome he is.

Every now and then he gives me that look…the “this is going on the blog, isn’t it?” look. He knows. The stream of blog fodder he provides is awesome.

And so today the Hub gets his wish. He gets a post dedicated to him.

Because he sucks.

Yes, that’s correct. He sucks. You see, my Husband does the one chore I hate more than any other: he vacuums.

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I would rather do anything than run the vacuum cleaner. I will offer to clean the bathrooms, toilets and tubs included, if I don’t have to run the vacuum cleaner. I hate it. I don’t know why.

Maybe it’s the banshee-like sound it makes. Maybe it’s because the beast is heavy and awkward, like an elephant on skis. Maybe it’s an act of rebellion against my Mother who may or may not love vacuuming more than spring.

What I do know is that since the day we married, the Hub has done all the vacuuming. It means a lot to me because he doesn’t love it, either. But he does love me.

His ready acceptance of this chore I hate speaks volumes. He is willing to do it so I don’t have to. And there are things he would rather not do, like grocery shopping and pairing socks. I take those.

There are things in life we would rather not do and things we flat out hate. Some parts of marriage sometimes suck and some responsibilities we could do without. Everyone has their own laundry list.

Marriage, like sharing chores, is about striking a balance. You have to fiddle with the weights a little to find the combination that works. Help one another. Carry the load your partner doesn’t want. Do the job that sucks.

Find the balance between work and play, too. Some days the chores get finished; some days they do not. The house will not always be clean. And at the end of any day it doesn’t matter if we have spotless floors or sparkling tubs. What matters is that we loved.20150214_024309[1]

Compassion, kindness, nurture. These things matter. These things say love. These things last far longer than the length of a least loved chore or the freshness of flowers in a vase.

And besides, after the flowers die, someone is going to have to clean them up.

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This has been a Finish the Sentence Friday post, where writers and bloggers link up their words to a weekly prompt. This week’s sentence is “The chore I hate doing the most is…”

Our chore-hating but lovely host is Kristi from Finding Ninee

Our gracious co-hosts Michelle Grewe from Crumpets and Bollocks and Kirstenjill Hudkins Robbins from Ripped Jeans and Bifocals

Be sure to visit any of these lovely ladies to find the link-up to more great posts!

Finish the Sentence Friday

Bullying: The Public Secret

It is no secret that bullying is a problem.

It takes on many forms and wears many masks. It has become a public topic of discussion.

But bullying often happens away from the public eye. It happens in secret, without sound. It continues without our notice until we wonder about the “sudden” result.

Today Hasty Words has offered to share her space with me as part of her month-long series about bullying. Join me over there to talk about this very public secret.

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It’s 6 Words On Wednesday Time Over At Coach Daddy’s

It’s that time of the month again…

Time for Coach Daddy’s monthly 6 Words post! In honor of Brain Awareness Month, Eli asked us to share what we’ve done when we are not so aware and have our brains switched to the “off” position.

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Click over and see what the gang has to say…you’ll find hilarious confessions from many of your favorite bloggers. And I guarantee you’ve done at least one of the things on the list!

Here we go…click now!

Book Review – Beth Teliho’s Order of Seven

This is quite possibly the most cantankerous book review you will read today.

There are several reasons why I should not review this book for you at all.

I do not read much contemporary fiction. It is not my first choice when I want to crack open a book. I am also not a big fan of the YA genre. I am no longer a young adult and the subject matter doesn’t grab me. I read a lot of non-fiction and often return to the “old dead white guys” canon of literature from my high school and college days.

I know, I know – you’re wondering which rock over there in the pile is the one I call home. Maybe I’m just an old soul with my head stuck in tradition.

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But in my area of the blogosphere there was much scuttlebutt about the upcoming release of Beth Teliho’s Order of Seven. I needed to see what was causing all the noise.

Let me say this: it broke through a few boundaries for me.

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An Acuteness Of The Senses

I do not make it a habit to use this space for rants and complaints.

I am not suggesting that I never talk about things that bother me. Of course I do. But today I’m feeling a bit lousy and I just want to say so.

I feel lousy. Continue reading

TToT – Outside My Comfort Zone

I am standing outside of my comfort zone. It feels good.

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Recently, I have put myself and my writing “out there” for others to see, to critique, and to share. I am thankful that I had the courage to do it and I am thankful for the feedback I’ve received. I am thankful for inspiration to write and when that is not present, I am thankful for writing prompts.

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FTSF – I Have No Proudest Moment

I have no proudest moment to share with you.

I am terrible with superlatives. Favorite? Best? Proudest? Worst? I am always struck dumb when asked to name only one. After thinking about this for days, I find myself reaching the same conclusion once again.

I can not name any one proudest moment. Continue reading

#1000 Speak: Step Into Someone Else’s Skin

It was a conversation with my daughter that helped me finally decide.

We were talking about a disagreement between her and a classmate. Both parties were upset; neither understood the other’s point of view. As we talked at dinner that night, my daughter began to understand not only what might have caused the other person to act as they did, but also what caused her to react as she did.

We’ve talked with our daughter about bullying and meanness. We want her to understand how to speak up if she or someone else is being mistreated. But we also want her to understand how important it is not to mistreat someone else. The ability to understand what a person might be feeling that would cause them to be mean is an important skill.

It’s not a new idea. In the novel To Kill a Mockingbird, Atticus Finch tells his daughter Scout, “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view… Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” It’s good advice. Continue reading